I would have given the book 5 stars if the author had made it clear that the book is for those unhappy people and ONLY those unhappy people But he didn t He makes the claim that the book is also for people who are happy with the fetish Those that buy it and read it for that purpose will be presented with a lot of absolutism and ignorance and not be presented with the wide range of reasons that exist for the fetish beyond issues of inadequacy. Here are some reasons that men may have this fetish that this author completely ignores This is not an all encompassing list It is just examples.

Two mouths and two love sticks don t exist A man cannot feel inadequate to men that do not exist. But even taking this a step further what if it turns the wife on for her husband to just watch Is it inadequacy for the men to get pleasure from giving his wife the fantasy she wants And what if it is the wife s fantasy is to be alone with another man and then immediately return to her husband and enjoy the reconnection between the two Is it inadequacy that is behind the man s joy he gets from giving his wife the fantasy she wants And on top of the author s ignoring the many different reasons that a man can be aroused by sharing his wife.

You need to understand this fetish Otherwise you are just in denial and you will find yourself in the cuck porn rabbit hole again I can tell you from direct experience that the common explanations that you will find online and in mainstream therapy and are TRASH Shills like Dr David Ley are worse than trash I have been in mental bondage for almost 20 years and each year it became worse Finally understanding how the cuck fetish forms and why it is so powerful was a literal revolution for me Despite what these evil people in mainstream psychology media etc pretty much anything in bed with modern feminism might tell you.

There s nothing wrong with having a fetish they re just sexual desires that society frowns upon and that shouldn t stop you if you re happy This book is written with that in mind but mainly aimed at those who aren t happy Fetishes can cause intense feelings of shame and can wrongly make people feel weird unlovable worthless or less desirable Fetishes can even prevent a healthy sex life by overwhelming your sex drive and leave you unable to enjoy normal sex maybe even decreasing your normal sex drive altogether Perhaps most of all you may never want to be cuckolded in real life because it stands against everything you want from your relationships Your sexual desires are so in conflict with what you actually want that it makes you sad angry or you feel like you simply need to change If so this book is for you Over the years researchers in psychology have found success in many methods of changing reducing or removing problematic sexual desires and these are reviewed in this fully referenced evidence based self help book Chapter 1 explains the reason why the hurtful painful scenario of cuckolding gets turned into sexual pleasure Chapter 2 explains how this reason forms in your brain as opposed to other people s brains Chapter 3 explores the consequences of this and how it affects your life and creates a self sustaining loop that keeps it there until you change something Chapter 4 is about how it s affected by your childhood and other life experiences like previous relationships especially painful ones or being cheated on Finally Chapter 5 is all about everything you can do to change this Numerous practical steps are presented to change your fetish in both the short and the long term from all angles in psychology including behavioral psychodynamic social physiological and humanistic As with all of this book significant statements are referenced and backed up with appropriate sources which are listed at the end of the book Experienced fetish researcher Connor McGonigal guides you through the multi step process to understand and overcome the psychology of the cuckold fantasy refined by years of coaching men 1 on 1 and his encyclopedic knowledge of the science in this area With an emphasis on drawing from books studies and references as opposed to personal opinion and speculation this book is an evidence based collection of information on how to change your fetish so that you can have a normal healthy enjoyable sex life You ll learn that fetishes and kinks are caused by our deepest fears feelings and beliefs and that all you have to do to change is to identify those fears feelings and beliefs and change them Fetishes can naturally come and go over the course of our lifetimes because we change and grow as people Sometimes the fears and self image that we had at one point in our lives is completely different from today and as a result our sexual fantasies change to match This book is about speeding up that process understanding the cause of the cuckold fetish and overcoming it so that you can reduce your arousal to it If your cuckold fetish is preventing you from having a normal sex life or feeling truly comfortable in a romantic relationship or if your fetish has evolved to the point where it has become an identity that you don t want and don t agree with then this book is for you The Psychology Behind The Cuckold Fetish How It 39 s Caused What It Means About You And How To Change English Edition I would have given this book 1 star based on my reasons for buying it but I gave it three stars because if you are uphappy with having this fetish then this book would help you immensely But if you are happy with your fetish and are just looking to learn about why you enjoy having it showing that the author ignored a lot to simply focus on inadequacy. The same reason that people leap out of planes and plunge to the earth with nothing but the hope that the bag they have strapped to their back is going to save them dying is the same reason that some men let their wives sleep with another man with nothing but the hope that the trust they have established with their wife is going to save him from losing her Their reason has nothing to do with inadequacy Their reason has everything to do with experiencing the thrill of risk and trust Sharing their wife is like sky diving to them. Another non inadequacy reason men enjoy sharing their wife is the ability to focus on her 100% while she is having sex When the husband is her partner during the sex she is having the husband can t focus on her 100% He is distracted on his job to please her as well as being distracted by the pleasures he is feeling By not being a participant and only being a spectator the husband is distracted by nothing as he gets to experience his wife having sex He can focus 100% on her. In addition while being her partner the husband can only view his wife from the angle his task at hand provides But by being a spectator he can pick any angle he wants to view her from. This disconnect from being a participant while the wife has sex provides arousal that can not be achieved any other way And yes it is arousing I have seen many studies that have found most men have fantasized about their wife having sex with another man I ve seen the study show it as being as high as 90% and the lowest study had it at 52% So somewhere between 52% and 90% of men are willing to admit on survey studies that they fantasize about it And this number also reflects that there are men whose religious beliefs keep them from admitting to it even on a survey because their religion teaches them it is a sin So yes the arousal of watching your wife have sex is not specifically tied to inadequacy unless the vast majority of men suffer from inadequacy. Another reason it can turn men on that isn t tied to inadequacy is the joy the man can get from his wife being able to experience something different that she wants The wife s fantasy may be to experience two men pleasuring her at the same time and be the center of attention The man getting aroused by giving his wife what she wants to experience could only be inadequacy if a man with only two hands one mouth and one love stick is considered inadequate The author did touch on inadequacy of a white man not being able to be the black man his wife wants But in that scenario black men really do exist Men with four hands he also takes a very absolute and binary approach to explaining what humans feel His approach shows no acknowledgment that a person can experience many different emotions simultaneously His approach is that the man experiences a negative emotion and only that negative emotion and that as a kind of self defense mechanism the body switches that emotion to a pleasurable emotion and only that pleasurable emotion. While there is probably some researched and scientific support for this process occurring in humans focusing so heavily on this process leaves no room for the reader to consider that the man who is turned on by sharing his wife could be experiencing many different emotions simultaneously And by experiencing different emotions simultaneously the experience of each emotion can feel different due to the presence of other emotions. Think for example about coffee cocoa and lemons Each by themselves are not pleasurable to eat At least to most people noting that a minority of people do enjoy black coffee and pure cocoa But for most they are too bitter too sour etc But each of these when experienced with other edible items like cream and sugar produce a pleasurable thing to eat or drink for most people With the right mix of cream and sugar coffee and chocolate are very popular items And with the right amount of sugar and water lemon juice makes a very tasty lemonade or lemon shake up. Negative emotions can work exactly the same Jealousy by itself for most people is too bitter too sour etc But what many men who enjoy sharing their wives have found is that jealousy can be pleasurable not because of some self defense mechanism turning it into a pleasurable feeling but because the mix of many different emotions is together a pleasurable experience As mentioned before being able to disconnect from performing the sex with their wife and become a spectator results in pleasurable emotions love for your wife happiness for her happiness joy for her happiness etc etc A new word has been coined to describe feeling sexual pleasure from someone else s sexual pleasure That word is called compersion When a man experiences compersion while also experiencing jealousy it is like turning the lemon of jealousy into lemonade by mixing it with compersion sugar This isn t some self defense mechanism of the body and mind defending itself from inadequacy A man with zero issues of inadequacy can experience jealousy being turned into lemonade as a result of feeling compersion. This also works with other negative emotions like fear Experiencing compersion can make fear feal different And it s not just compersion that can make fear feel different Other simultaneous emotions can make fear feel pleasurable as well Think of why Hollywood makes so much money making scary movies Being scared by what you see and hear on the screen while immediately being able to hold on to and squeeze your significant other s arm and feel an immediate emotional connection with them turns fear into a pleasurable experience and a lot of dollars for Hollywood This has absolutely nothing to do with inadequacy. There are also considerations of the competitiveness that exists within most male s genes A wife that is sexually active with other men can stimulate the man s desire to compete for her which can be pleasurable just like athletes get pleasure from competing Many men have only experienced the pleasure of competing for their wife before they got married because the monogamous rules of marriage in our culture eliminate any and all competition from their relationship Not only do they no longer compete after marriage and not experience the pleasure of competing just like athletes get pleasure from competing many times husbands turn into a different person and aren t the same person their wife remembers while they are dating If a wife wants the man she dated back she could get that man back by letting their man believe she at the very least wants to sleep with others I wouldn t advise doing this though unless your marriage is already strong This isn t a way to fix problems in marriages. TL DR While a person who is suffering from issues of inadequacy would benefit from this book and I recommend they read it the author s suggestion that those who are happy with this fetish and just want to learn about why they have it and would benefit from reading it is totally wrong It s nothing than a money grab on his part to make sales to people who would just read his ignorance He is right that people who suffer from inadequacy don t need to know about all the other reasons men enjoy sharing their wives but he should be honest that this is the only audience that this book is intended for Connor McGonigal This is the best booker ever to read not only it deals with the cuckold fetish but it made me understand soooooo much about myself how I am and what traumas I have Thank you so much sir for writing this book ur a real genius for putting all this info together God bless you In 3 days of reading this book I no longer even feel aroused by cuckold fantasy Connor McGonigal One of the best purchases I did Totally worth it Fix your life Connor McGonigal In 2020 I started with his website course and I swear to you that every day since has been a little better than the day before Understand this that before you can break the cuckold fetish there is nothing natural about this fetish By challenging this part of yourself you are not denying or repressing anything native to your natural sexuality Do yourself a favor and just read this book My experience was that by just finishing the book about 50% of that toxic hypnotic grip that everyone who has this fetish is gone. not totally but enough to gain a little clarity and think feel with a little objectivity that you have in the past Lets be honest if your sex life is wrecked then you already know that it hurts the rest of your life and NOTHING destroys REAL masculine sexuality that this fetish I thank God for this book being written and I wake up everyday excited and truly in love with the life that I have now BUY THIS BOOK AND BREAK YOUR CHAINS. no white knuckling or self denial needed Connor McGonigal Having spent years of my life wallowing in self pity confused depressed throwing my life away getting nowhere Too terrified to open up to really anyone why Because of the very thing I was so terrified of being told of maybe even being true even that these fantasies was simply my fate this was just who I was and was destined to live as such I had people in my own workplace mistreat me in front of customers and other employees who came to suspect me of wanting that only to be confused when I become incredibly upset by the ordeal I had an assistant manager call me b tch and talked down to me I had one girl before then I started to have feelings for refer to me as garbage in front of customers when I worked at Circle K It was almost like some people could just tell and made me feel like this was just me this was just my fate After that girl I moved up north to learn MMA from a buddy with the mentality that I could become a man oh how childish I was really beingI finally came across this book it has helped me immensely it has put things in perspective for me in a way I really needed It has helped me be less judgemental of myself and it made me feel less ashamed to have not just these fantasies but all the feelings that come with them the good and the bad Feeling imprisoned by my own sexual fantasies this helped me feel free That s the problem I think the individuals who have this are confused about it and so is the most of society is seems When you put the two together it s just confusion This book doesn t want you to feel ashamed for having this in fact it goes out of it s way to tell you that these fantasies are nothing to be ashamed of None the less these fantasies can hurt emotionally and that is because the second your brain stops eroticizing them the natural reaction to those scenarios is pain the fantasies are literally painful afterwords This book has made me feel tons better about myself and this situation There is people who need this book and I am so happy someone wrote it Connor McGonigal .

: I could go on and on but I think my point has been made[1]

This is NOT the book for you